*big sigh*
I wish people could be more honest with me...come right out and say what they are feeling rather than paying lip service and saying whatever they think I want to hear. All that ends up doing is making both people unhappy eventually when the truth comes out (and it always DOES come out). I am disappointed. I have a right to be disappointed, I feel like I've been in a pretend world for several years. How am I ever to know what is real and what is just said for my benefit? Now I am afraid I will be watching and weighing every word I hear, sifting each sentence looking for the 'real' truth as opposed to what i think they are saying just to please me. Kind of takes the fun and joy out of everything. The joy has been pretty much removed. Yes, I am disappointed, and yes I am taking it personally.
I guess I will go on with what I plan to do and live my life according to MY plans. What will be will be, and the end result will be whatever anyone else makes of it.
OOOOOOOOOListen!
When parking my truck in front of my horse trailer, my stupidstupidstupid foot slipped off the stupidstupidstupid brake and I gently bumped the gooseneck hitch with the front of my truck. I got out to look, knowing there would probably be a scratch, and I found a big HOLE in the front of my truck!!! Poor Ralph the Purple Ranger now is blemished...probably forever since I don't have the money to fix him. [insert very sad, depressed face here]
The world is entirely too negative!
Why do people always go out of their way to look for the bad in other people? I don't understand that!!! The more negative thoughts you have, the less happy your life will be. You cannot be happy and be a negative person! It's true! So many depressed and angry people have only themselves to blame. Stop looking at the bad stuff, stop imagining what can go wrong, stop dwelling on what did go wrong. Stop obsessing over the faults of another person, stop looking for things to criticize, stop feeling like you have to fix everything!
I think lately I have been turning into a negative person. Yikes! How did that happen? I catch myself lately looking for the bad things, looking for things to criticize, looking for my anger. It's stupid and pointless (as is most of my life LOL!). From this moment on I am going to work very hard to remain positive, to see the bad but concentrate on the good. Instead of getting angry, I am going to simply walk away.
I am convinced the most difficult thing in the world is communicating effectively in your relationships. We hear each other, but do we listen?
I think I am a bad communicator. I hear what you are saying, but in most cases my brain has already interpreted what you said before you even finished your sentence...and unless my psychic powers begin to appear, I am generally wrong! Which brings me to another point, which I'll save for my next log.
In honor of St. Patrick's Day, I'll use green text!
In the midst of the daily stress, it's nice to have a home oasis...a cold Diet Pepsi, a couple cans of ravioli, a dashingly handsome husband, and must-see TV Thursday night. Ahhhh....
I don't get it. If someone is upset with you for something you did wrong, and you offer to fix it and make it right and they refuse, then why are they upset in the first place? I am so confused sometimes (yeah, big surprise there!!!). I would think if someone is mad about something, their anger should be abated by the wrong-er making an effort to fixthings, but if the wrong-ee refuses to let the wrong-er fix their mistake...what's the point? Just to stay mad, to feel the buzz of righteous anger?
Here's my formula of how things should work:
Person #1 does something wrong
Person #2 expresses anger or disappointment
Person #1 offers to make amends by fixing their mistake and making things whole again
Person #2 agrees
Person #1 fixes and makes it right
Person #2 is happy again, anger is forgotten, and all go on their merry way
Unfortunately, this is how things usually work:
Person #1 does something wrong
Person #2 expresses anger or disappointment
Person #1 offers to make amends by fixing their mistake and making things whole again
Person #2 refuses to let person #1 fix what upset them in the first place, but insists on grinding them into their mistake (not letting them fix it), and then gives them the right to hold a grudge and possibly bring up this incident again at a later date to be used as ammunition.
My lesson for today - anger and arguments are a waste of energy and oxygen. Fix the wrongs and move on to happier things in life! My goal: to stay happy. Care to join me?
I am working on a personal mission to handle my daily frustration. Why is it that you feel so much better if you can just let loose your daily grind-ation on someone else? Sure not a great way to make or keep friends. Oh yea, grindation is my own personal term for the stress you feel from working hours and hours on menial tasks without a mental break. Some goober once told me that he didn't think 'mental work' was tiring, and that someone who wasn't lifing heavy objects or doing rough manual labor outdoors had no reason to be tired. Your thoughts on that? I think it's a load of BUNK!